Don’t have the waist you’d like?

No definition at the waist?

Many of us are dismayed that we do not have a sufficiently trim waist, especially as some current styles seem to demand a well-defined waist in order to look good. Of course body shapers and cinchers can be helpful and are readily available in stores, but there are perfectly lovely styles around which will disguise this problem area when you want to look your best, without the aid of special underwear!

The idea is simple – draw attention away from your problem, wear softer shapes around the area, accentuate your best points and no-one will guess you are not perfectly proportioned, not even you!

Skirts and Trousers

Firstly, low waisted skirts and trousers will only draw attention to your lack of definition – far better to select a high waisted version which will snugly hug your waist ( I don’t mean ‘under the bust’ high, just what we used to think of as normal!)
But this first step is just to help you feel secure – you will probably not show the tops of skirts/ trousers when you discover the joy, comfort, freedom and elegance of the wide range of loosely fitting tops available.


Don’t follow the crowd by choosing tightly fitting tops.
T-shirts which gently skim around your waist and end at your hips or thighs are very
flattering for your figure type. If your hips are relatively slim you could try a loose belt too. Kaftan shaped tops are very fashionable just now and are the perfect shape to hide a less than perfect waist – they are available in a fantastic range of colours and prints.
( also good for too-generous boobs – but that’s another post….)


Is it any wonder that Empire Line wedding dresses are so popular? They give the illusion of height, drawing the eye upwards towards the face, they kindly skim both the waist and hips, leaving the boob area a clear field!


Lightweight jackets, hip to thigh length, worn open, are also flattering, distracting the eye from your perceived problem.
Tailored jackets which are shaped in at the waist also help to give the illusion of a shapely waist, as long as they are not too tight.

There are many beautiful styles on the market to suit you – we have probably never had so much choice which can sometimes be the problem. But once you have found the basic shapes which suit you, which make you feel good and confident – you will have a great time shopping!

Are Heavy Thighs your issue?

The female body typically carries an extra layer of fat tissue – it is what gives us our curves and softness, but an excess in specific areas can be a problem.

The thighs can stubbornly retain fat, creating an impediment to elegance. Fortunately there are several simple ways to conceal over enthusiastic thighs thereby drawing attention away from them.

Trouser / Pant suggestions for troublesome thighs

  • When choosing trousers, if there is a definite convex outline when you look at your side view – then those pants are not for you!
  • Similarly, try to avoid trouser styles which are tight enough to produce horizontal creasing around the crotch – these become exaggerated as you walk and draw attention to the problem.
  • Try instead elegant and flattering Palazzo pants or the similar Katharine Hepburn wide legged and tailored long pants almost touching the floor (over shoes with heels to keep yourself in proportion).
  • One last piece of trouser advice – avoid sharply tapered trousers, these create a peg shape, highlighting the contrast between bulky thighs and narrow calves.

Skirts for thicker thighs

  • Avoid skirts cut on the bias – they cling in all the wrong places for you.
  • High waisted skirts and dresses which flare and skim over the thighs are the kindest shape as well as the current trend for full length floaty dresses which are ideal for concealing this particular problem area.

We’ve also created a Pinterest board with some examples of outfits to help you find your style with heavy thighs.


Shoes to visually lengthen your legs…

Shoes which help or hinder…

By creating the illusion of an unbroken line right to the tips of your toes, you will add visual centimetres to your leg length. You can do this by;

  1. Avoiding ankle straps, which appear to cut your lower legs in half.
  2. Choosing light coloured shoes where possible. Shoes which are of a similar tone to your legs appear to lengthen the calf.
  3. Try to find shoes which are not totally flat – even a centimetre or two of heel will help.
  4. In colder weather, the best visual trick is a nicely heeled boot under pants or a longer skirt. Keep them in the same tone to enhance the illusion of legs which go on forever…

Our Pinterest Board on shoes which can help to lengthen your legs visually...

Our Pinterest Board on shoes which can help to lengthen your legs visually…

Styles to make your legs appear longer

We all want to look our best, to find clothes which draw attention to our best features and away from our shortcomings. It is relatively easy with the short leg issue. The main thing to keep in mind is that it is best not to demonstrate too clearly where your legs meet your butt. Unfortunately sometimes that might mean avoiding some fashions which look great on the likes of Elle Macpherson! It does mean not allowing yourself to follow fashion blindly. It does not mean however, resorting to Kaftans.

Try to avoid:

But try these tricks:

We soon learn to recognise the shapes which suit us – the ones which make us feel good, more poised – we soon learn to shop with confidence!


Is the length of your legs your problem?

Maybe you are sometimes disappointed when you get a promising purchase home, only to find that it doesn’t look as good on you as you thought it would (Hopefully not because you have been tricked by a flattering distorting mirror in the fitting room, which happened to me)

There are ways to identify the strengths & weaknesses of your figure.

Leg length

Work out your body to leg ratioWearing just your undies stand well back from a full length mirror and look carefully at the proportion of your body.

Using the length of your head as a guide (top of head to chin) you can assess whether your proportions are ‘classic’ or vary in some way (as most of us do!). You can use the old artists’ technique of holding a pencil at arms length, close one eye, focus on the pencil and indicate with your thumb the size of your head.

Now in order to be considered ‘perfectly’ proportioned there should be four of that measurement between your feet and and your hips – any less than that you should take into consideration when choosing clothes – any more than that, your are very lucky, you don’t need any help!

We will look at ways to combat the curse of short legs in upcoming posts – there are many simple ways to visually lengthen your legs….

Determine your proportion of body length to leg length with this technique

Could a short neck be your problem?

Few of us are physically perfect – most of us (even top models) are aware of some perceived figure fault preventing us from being totally comfortable with our appearance.

One common shortcoming which affects the way we look and feel is the short neck. We are confronted by images of swan necked models and actresses every day, which might discourage us from trying to combat this particular problem.

However, there are several ways to minimise the appearance of a short neck. Good posture can help – but choosing the right neckline, accessories and hairstyle can work wonders.

To give the illusion of a longer neck it makes sense to not cover it with collars or chunky jewellery – so avoid polo and turtle necklines and heavy chokers – select collarless jackets.

Seek out deep v-shaped necklines which open up the neckline, allowing the eye to perceive a more elongated & elegant neck.

 Your hairstyle can also affect the appearance of a short neck. If your hair is long and touches your shoulders, your neck disappears altogether. A hairstyle which leaves space to allow your neck to show will help to give a more flattering appearance. If you prefer your hair long then experiment with ways of wearing it up and you will be surprised what a difference it can make.

 While chunky neckwear is not to be advised, fine necklaces are OK as are moderately dangly earrings……


Your starting point…

There are billions of women in the world of all shapes & sizes – there are only a handful of supermodels. The secrets to feeling comfortable and confident in your own appearance are very simple. Liberate your look – reassess your dress habits, look again at your colour schemes, analyse your figure type.

Illustration of the average womans proportions compared to those of a supermodelAs kids our clothes were chosen for us – colours & shapes we were told we looked ‘nice’ in then, are not necessarily right for us now.

We all remember those lucky girls who looked good in school uniform – very few of us did.

As we passed through puberty hormones changed our shape, caused our spots, affected our growth rate and moods. This all happened just as we got to choose our own clothes – no wonder many of us got it wrong!

To compound the confusion we and our peers are constantly exposed to society’s current passion for celebrity looks and lifestyles – leading us to make more misguided choices in our selection of clothes.

We know when a look suits us- we instantly feel good, confident, sexy. We all have a favourite outfit which never fails to lift our spirits. The chances are, that outfit is probably a good colour choice for you, probably accentuates your good points, probably conceals any figure faults…

There is your starting point….